Monday, December 23, 2013

Part 2: A Hill Worth Dying On

As many of you have seen over the last few days, I've had quite the scrum with several people on Facebook over the recent comments Phil Robertson made in an interview with GQ Magazine.

I’m not shy about putting my opinions out there in a public forum. I guess that goes without saying. I've often thought that if you’re going to have opinions, you should not be afraid to put them out for all the world to see. Sometimes, I put things out just to “stir the pot,” as it were, to get the debate going and see what other people are really thinking.

Other times, I post, or comment on others’ posts, when something really moves me, and I feel like I want or need to weigh in. In either case, there’s  consequences, both good and bad, when you put yourself out on the line like that, and there’s times when I’m glad I did, and other times when I wish I’d thought better before blabbering on like I’m sometimes wont to do.

With regard to this most recent Duck Dynasty situation, and Robertson’s comments about sin as it’s defined in the Bible, I've read quite a bit on both sides of the debate, and I’m not afraid to say that I have some VERY strong feelings about the whole affair.

There are those who think this story is way overblown. There are some who claim this story pales in comparison in terms of importance with other problems of the world.

I've read some who've written, questioning whether or not this is a situation even worth getting worked up over. You know the old saying… “Is this a hill really worth dying on?” I've read some really enlightening articles recently that have highlighted mass Christian murders in the mission fields in foreign countries, and it begs the question: Is this Duck Dynasty deal really that big of deal when hundreds, and maybe even thousands, of Christians are being persecuted and killed all over the world every day for their belief in God?

That’s a good question.

The worst thing I've read is sheer apathy. People who are not Duck Dynasty fans couldn't give a rat’s behind about what Phil Robertson says to anybody, and they think the whole uproar is just plain silly. Worse, there are Christians who simply want to sit back and say, “Well, we can’t do anything about this anyway,” so instead, they prefer to do nothing. Many people are just already tired of hearing about it. They don’t see how it affects them anyway, and they think it’s stupid that everyone just keeps going on and on about it.

Well, I happen to think this is a VERY big deal, and I’ll tell you why.

I think we ignore the repercussions of all this at our own peril. The continued apathy towards having our faith and beliefs trampled is continuing to not only erode the moral fiber of this country, but feeds the vocal minority in continuing to silence those of us who speak the Truth that this country was founded upon. One of the reasons we are where we are in this country is because we have stood by in those moments of Truth, and we've done nothing, allowing to enemy to get an even better foothold.

You see, there’s a reason the Bible is the #1 selling book of all time. Additionally, it’s no coincidence that The Passion of the Christ is one of the top grossing movies of all time, and no accident that Duck Dynasty is the top rated reality show of all time.

It’s no accident. Those things are popular because they proclaim the Truth of Jesus Christ, and there is a yearning and a hunger, and even a need, in this country to hear more of the Truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

Our country is longing for a return to the Christian values upon which this country was founded. Those who seek to destroy and tear down those values are a significant minority, and yet those of us who want to preserve them continue to stand by idly and let them get away with it. The problem in this instance is that A&E has significantly underestimated the majority feeling in this country. They've kowtowed to a minority viewpoint – a very VOCAL minority, I’ll give them that – but a minority no less.

And that’s the primary reason this is such a big deal. The whole world is watching right now. This isn't some two-bit show that’s barely hanging on in the ratings. This is the highest rated reality TV show in the country right now – and is so because of the Christian following it is Millions of people the world over are watching the Christian reaction to all of this. If we back down now, the world is going to see that they can continue to push around Christians and we’re not going to do anything about it.

For those who are concerned about worldwide missions, think of the message that sends to the Christians who are being persecuted in foreign countries. America is seen as a beacon of hope for Christians the world over. If they see that we’re not willing to stand up for our convictions here, where the consequences are little more than a TV show coming to an end, how easy will it be for them to deny Christ when there are real consequences at stake?

Moreover, many worldwide missions are funded by American churches and organizations. In many ways, those Christians who are being so persecuted throughout the world have little chance of hearing the Gospel in the first place without the aid of American ministries. If we continue to allow our Christian values to be stripped of us here in the states in the name of Political Correctness, how soon will it be before our ability to take the Gospel to “all the nations” is stripped away too? So don’t tell me that we should ignore persecution here in America, however slight it is perceived, in favor of worldwide persecution when the truth is that the ability to overcome the former is directly tied to our ability to overcome the latter.

A good friend of mine, Richard Holler, continues to comment on Facebook about how “WE THE PEOPLE” continue to stand by and do nothing as the Political Correctness crowd slowly but surely erodes away our Christian values. Each separate incident seems insignificant by itself. Removing the Ten Commandments from the courthouse lawn seems like such a silly thing over which to get worked up. So too do the comments of some “hick, redneck TV star.” But when you see the bigger picture, all the sudden our children can’t pray in schools, millions of unborn babies are dead, traditional marriage is mocked while divorce rates skyrocket, and we all are forced to pay for birth control and abortions. And all you need to do is look around to see the ramifications of the traditional family being torn apart. What else won’t we be able to do tomorrow? Or worse, what will our heathen government force us to do or accept?

According to the Bible, there is a time to “Turn the other cheek.” But there is also a time to “overturn the money changers’ tables” in the temple courts. I believe it’s high time we “overturn a few tables,” as it were. It’s high time we start standing up and fighting for our Christian values before there all stripped away from us and there’s nothing left to fight for.


The world is watching... I believe we have just one more chance in this country to turn it around. We may not have another.

Friday, December 20, 2013

Part 1: Judgment

God loves the sinner...

But GOD HATES THE SIN!

Boy, am I glad about that. Because like the Apostle Paul, I am chief among sinners.

There, I said it, and for some reason, I don't feel much better. While that's a Biblical precept that I believe is an accurate picture how God feels about his people, it seems more and more in today's society that most people want to stop after the first line.

Many in society today -- including many who claim to be devout Christians -- want to picture God as a big teddy bear, who constantly has his big arms open, ready to hug anyone who comes by, no matter what kind of life they live. For the most part, there's truth in that assessment. God indeed is ready to receive, love and redeem anyone who wants to accept him. Most people want to believe that God is going to welcome everybody who's a "good person" into Heaven, no matter what kind of lifestyle they choose to live.

But again, many want to stop at the hug. When the rest of the Bible reveals that there are certain precepts we have to adhere to, certain laws we have to live by, when it shows the kind of lifestyle we are expected to lead, when it condemns those who choose to turn their backs on God's laws, well then, that's where the lullaby stops.

Obviously, I've had a lot of conversations over the last couple days about the comments Phil Robertson made in an interview in GQ magazine. I'm not going to give you all the details. You can read the interview yourself here. But suffice to say, it has polarized a lot of people, and we've each chosen to align ourselves with a certain side.

As is often the case, most people have missed the bigger point.

Problem #1: Phil's comments about the bible are correct. It really does say that homosexuals -- along with a host of other sinful types -- will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Those aren't my words. They're not Phil's words. They're God's words. I'm not judging someone, or condemning them. I'm presenting them with Biblical truth. That someone doesn't believe in Scripture is not my problem. I can't force anyone to believe in the Bible or God, anymore than God himself can.

The most common misconception in the Bible is the belief that we are not supposed to judge. It's the first thing most non-Christians -- and many Christians -- go to when they feel attacked. Without any real knowledge of the Bible in full, they will run to the Scripture (or Scriptures) that they believe says thou shalt not judge.

Now, the problem with that is: 1) they are often confusing -- on purpose, I might add -- judging someone's actions with judging someone's soul, and 2) the Bible does indeed provide us the freedom to judge someone's actions.

True: Only God can judge your soul. There are countless Bible verses that proclaims God alone as the One able to save and redeem, and in turn erase your name from the Book of Life. James 4 proclaims that truth.

But we are indeed allowed -- and sometimes required -- to discern and judge the actions of others based on Biblical truth. I could write it all out myself, but here are two very good articles on the misconceptions of judging in the bible. Both say it better, and probably more succinctly than I would. #1 and #2.

There's other Scripture that allows us to speak about our ability to discern others based on the "fruit" they produce. It says that bad trees will produce bad fruit, but that good trees will produce good fruit. It's pretty simple really... If your life is producing bushels of bad fruit, there's a pretty good chance you're not living right, at least not adhering to the Biblical principles that God has set. If you're producing good fruit, then maybe you're doing a few things right.

And yet, even then, just because someone is a good person doesn't mean they're necessarily going to Heaven, for the Bible says there is only one way to get to Heaven, and that's through Jesus Christ. (John 14:6) Unfortunately, I know a lot of really good people who don't have a relationship with Jesus. Does that mean I can just ignore the truth of John 14 just because I happen to know someone who's a "pretty good guy"? Or because they're a good friend or relative of mine? Of course not.

The bottom line is that we are commanded to "speak the truth in love," and I'll be the first to admit that I fail sometimes on the "love" part. But that doesn't mean we are to cower away each time the truth of the Bible is attacked. I believe we are to stand in truth, and stand up to defend what we know is right about Scripture.

People simply don't want to be told they're wrong. And they certainly don't like it when you tell them that God is not please with the way they're living. When confronted with the truth of Scripture, most who are living the dark will lash out and try to deflect the discernment on their lives. For most of us, if we truly care and love each other, that's called "accountability." But for someone who's trying to deny their sin, they call it "judging."

But I'm not defending my rules. I'm defending God's. I did not say Thou Shalt not Covet. God did. I did not say Thou Shalt not Murder. God did. I did not say Thou Shalt not Steal. God did. But see... those are all rules that most people don't oppose. Those are all God's laws that virtually everyone agrees with. And none of us have a problem with calling someone out who covets, or is a murderer or a thief.

But I did not say homosexuality is a sin. God did.

And the fact that others don't agree with that law doesn't make it any less true.

Fortunately for all of us, God is loving and ever merciful and is big and gracious enough to forgive our sins.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Standing Up for What You Believe

The other day, I read a news story about the SpaghettiO's people. Seems they posted a very benign tweet about Pearl Harbor that offended a few people. They ultimately deleted the tweet and then issued an apology. In reading through the reader comments on the story -- over 300 of them -- they all -- and I mean ALL -- supported SpaghettiO's, and questioned why they would have ever deleted the post in the first place. Not one comment expressed any contempt for the SpaghettiO’s people.

Which led me to the question: Who are these people who get offended so quickly and easily, and why are so many so quick to capitulate to them and issue apologies the instant someone gets offended?

This evening I shared an opinion of mine on Facebook. Well, not really an opinion so much as it was a question. It was a question born out of a frustration of mine that has been building for some time. Regardless, there were no names mentioned, and while it certainly was related to the circumstances of many I know, it was not pointed at anyone specifically.

Needless to say, I offended some people -- some who I feel very close to. Upon posting it, many of my Facebook friends weighed in with their own thoughts and opinions, which I welcome openly. I must admit, often is the time I will post something on Facebook for the express purpose of “stirring the pot,” as it were, just to get the discussions going. I love the discourse.

In fact, I would submit that that is the primary purpose of social media sites like Facebook, and others like them; to give the average Joe like myself a voice – a place where he can go to voice his thoughts, concerns, opinions and ideas, and otherwise just keep in touch with the rest of the world in a way we were never able to in the past. We all, of course, have the right to remain silent.

But being opinionated is kinda my thing, and if you’re gonna put yourself out there, you got to have some tough skin sometimes, because you know you’re going to tick someone off, or offend or hurt someone, sometimes people you love.

There are those who think it is better to keep your mouth shut and save feelings. No confrontation. There’s certainly a time for that. The question, “Is that a hill is worth dying on?” is a wise one to ask when you’re dealing with sensitive subjects. However, sometimes we sacrifice the truth at the peril of those who need to hear it just because we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Often times, that tactic does little more than allow a bad situation to fester to the point that it boils over into something much bigger and much worse than it ever should have been. How many times have we avoided a fight or an argument in the beginning, only to have a much more severe confrontation later because the problem was never dealt with?

Sometimes the truth hurts, and you have to be willing to share it with those who need it, sometimes for their own good, whether they want to hear it or not.

But being opinionated also comes with a great responsibility. First and foremost, you have to have your facts straight and accurate. Opinions, as they say, are like buttholes, and everyone’s got one. But your opinion won’t hold much weight if you don’t have facts to back it up. It has to be based on something concrete, and it’s not enough to just say, “Well, that’s my opinion,” if in fact your opinion is either false, or just plain wrong. That’s not the same thing as disagreeing. It is possible to disagree on a subject on which both parties are right, or at least partially so, with both opinions being based on various aspects of truth and facts. But whether we want to admit it or not, sometimes our opinions are just wrong. (Think: Obamacare.)

But a bigger responsibility is to be able to convey your opinion in a way that is most effective, and that usually entails the effort to deliver it with some tact, being as sensitive as possible to not hurt people to the extent that they just tune out and ultimately miss the whole point you were trying to make. Being blunt and to the point is one thing, and even being the kind of person who “tells it like it is” can be valuable, but if you offend people enough either through lack of clarity, untactful language, or just plain meanness, then you will have lost your audience completely, and that’s usually worse than offending someone.

I admit, this is where I fail more often than not. I pride myself on getting the facts straight, and at the risk of sounding boastful, I usually do a pretty good job of making sure the facts back up my opinion. But the written word can be a funny thing, and sometimes it can be very difficult to deliver what needs to be said without stinging a few people. Sometime, it can just be misunderstood because the reader doesn’t read the piece with the same inflection you intended when you wrote it.

But the biggest responsibility of all is you have to stand by what you say, and what you believe. Unless proven wrong – and God help us all recognize when we are wrong and be willing to admit to it – you cannot compromise what you believe. The moment you start to waffle, people will dismiss you as a hack. I believe in the concept that you put your name on your opinions, you stand by them, and you prepare yourself to defend them even in the face of adversity and the resistance of others. In other words, man up, and stand by what you believe.

I have no problem with that in most cases. But in tonight’s example, for a variety of reasons, I caved, and deleted my original post.

I regretted it immediately.

Not only because of my firm belief that you don’t back down from what you believe, but also because it deleted the comments of all of those who had taken the time to share their thoughts and opinions on the subject. Most of them, I must say, were in favor of my original post, and almost all were insightful and offered something of worth to the subject. I made the decision to not only back away from what I had stated, but also to wipe out thoughts and opinions of others that quite frankly did not belong to me.

Let me say this very carefully before I conclude. I pulled down my post for a variety of reasons…. I had hurt some, about which I was readily informed, and some of those were family members I never intended to even engage in this, let alone offend. Furthermore, I also received a visit from an angry boyfriend offering a thinly veiled threat that perhaps there could be further trouble if I didn’t delete it. The visit came after dark, with a darkly hooded associate in tow who I can only assume was there to exude further encouragement to the boyfriend.

I have been sick about it ever since. After he left, I thought, “no way” am I going to delete the post. And then I got to thinking: what if he’s a nutball and comes back with a gun or something, and then my little opinions get my family all shot up, and even though I would be making a stand, getting you and your family killed over a little Facebook post simply isn’t a cool way to die, and my Mom would be mad at me if it all went down that way?

And then I thought, “what if he’s right?” What if persisting in the whole issue really isn’t helping but doing more damage? What if maybe this wasn’t the best way, and the best place, to be trying to make this particular point?

So, all things considered, I put the kibosh on it all. And now I regret it.

And here’s why… First, what I said, and what I was trying to defend was right. I clearly stated that I am not without fault, far from perfect, and have made my share of bad decisions and choices in the past. But none of that changes the truth of what I was trying to say, which a simple defense of the family, and the importance of having BOTH parents in the house when raising a child. It is true – and the facts back this up – that, on the whole, children do better when they have both parents in the home, loving each other and loving the child and raising them right. That’s just simple logic.
But secondly, I regret it because backing away from my opinions go against every grain of my being. I am a firm believer in being able to look someone in the eye and say, “hey, I said what needed to be said.” I believe you don’t apologize for your feelings, and in this case, when the going got a little tough, I backed down, and I feel awful about it because I think that sends the wrong message to my kids. Sometimes you have to stand up for what you believe in, even if it gets a little messy. How can I look people in the eye and tell them I am a man of my word if I back away from my word at the first sign of trouble?

Lastly, I just don’t like that someone violated my personal space. He didn’t like it either, I suppose, even though his personal space was somewhere in California on a Facebook server, and I guess you got to give him props for choosing to share his views personally rather than on a keyboard. He stood up for his girl, you gotta give him that.

But I must admit, it caught me a little off guard and to my detriment, I wasn’t as prepared as he was. I mean, he had a flunky with him. MY flunky was sitting back in the living room, unaware I was in need of a flunky.

So, was I wrong or right? I don’t know. I didn’t see anything wrong the original post, and most of the commenters didn’t either, but again… the whole sensitivity thing.

As for deleting it, well, for that I think now I was absolutely wrong. I may have hurt some people, and for that I’m truly sorry. But by giving in and taking back what I said, I think makes me look like a fraud, and I think it says that I’m weak and my actions don’t follow my words. I think it sends the message that the truth of what I was trying to convey simple wasn’t worth fighting for.


And that makes me sick.